What are the gifts in the situation?
It's been a fascinating and rewarding last 48 hours. Not only have I been busy doing attunements, which I LOVE, but today I received an SOS from an old and dear friend--part of my family of choice--who has been going through a dark night of the soul. I spent an hour or so with her this afternoon helping her.
Without going into details, she was fired from her job in a shocking manner and treated disrespectfully afterward. This happened right before Christmas, but she was too embarrassed to tell anyone except her husband and son until today. My first reaction when I received her email asking for help was "This situation is for her benefit."
Her state of feeling broken and vulnerable has already produced something of a miracle--she is someone who has never really been open to my spiritual ministrations. You know, it's like Mark 6:4 says that Jesus said : "A prophet is not without honour, except in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house." But today, she was totally receptive to what I had to offer. Not only receptive, but eager. This was not just healing for her, but for me.
As we talked, I could feel Spirit take over (as I always do when I'm in a session with someone) and I could really connect with the immense blessing in this for her and was able to help her open to that in more than just a rote way (she already knew it rationally).
As I was, for lack of a better word, channeling Higher Wisdom for her, she asked me if this was written down anywhere on my website as she just wanted to focus on what I was saying and not try to take notes. Since it's not, I took notes as we talked and agreed to put the main points in a blog entry so that not only she could access them, but you could too. I'm sure someone else in addition to her who is guided here will find them useful as well. So...
Here are some of the points I made and suggestions I gave her (I've also added a couple of things we didn't get to today):
- First and always, surrender this to God-Realized Self/Higher Self/Spirit.
- Ask Spirit to help you see what the gifts are in the situation.
- Go ahead and offer gratitude for the situation even though you don't yet fully understand it and even before you're able to see the gifts!
- Work the Step-By-Step Frequency Raising System and be sure and have a #3 (i.e. do as directed in Step 3). Do that on a regular basis.
- Instead of condeming yourself for the thing you did that led to getting fired, focus on non-judgment. Instead, know that what you did, even if ego would judge it so, is not bad or wrong. What you did simply moved you away from the direction of your joy.
- Joy is an indicator of being in alignment, pain is an indicator of being out of alignment (and in Difficult World).
- Ask the question of yourself, "Next time I'm in a similar situation, how can I change my approach so that my joy is served and not my pain?"
- Ask yourself, "How is the person(s) I'm angry with mirroring something within myself that I need to embrace, forgive, and accept, and thus, transform?" (A clue--what is it that they did that's making you angry?) "Now--how does that same thing find expression in me? Or if it doesn't, how is it that I'm repressing its expression because I so desperately don't want to face it in myself?"
- Drop the "I don't deserve.." and "I'm not good enough..." and so on. That's just your fearful ego lying to you trying to keep you in Difficult World, the only place it exists.
- You are having an experience on behalf of God, All That Is (that's the totally inclusive God that includes both the "nice" and "not-so-nice" aspects--both the parts we like and the ones we don't like) so that GATI can have a complete and diverse experience of what it is to be a human being--in this case, a human being being YOU. Therefore, if that is your purpose for existing, and it is, nothing you can ever do is wrong! As long as you are having a human experience of any kind, you are fulfilling that purpose.
- Right and wrong, good and bad, are judgments. Judgments are not of the Divine--they're ego traps to keep you in Difficult World! So if you want to get out of your pain, you need to drop the judgments and just classify whatever it is that you're judging as wrong or bad, right or good (or that you're judging as wrong or bad, right or good about someone else) as simply something that IS. Period. It simply is.
- If you want to attract a new job, get back to joy first, because the vibration of depression will attract a job that isn't happy for you.
- Don't do anything based on "shoulds." Follow the Easy World guideline of "act only when inspired and energized." That's your guarantee of being in alignment with the Design for Harmony, and that's where all the joy is!
Now. I need to get back to writing. I realized I want to add a bunch more to one chapter, so I'm not as close to finished as I had thought! That's okay--I'd rather it be complete than simply completed! If you know what I mean.
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Julia, I appreciate your mentioning about the whole prophet not being accepted by his kin/country thing. I've heard that Jesus' family actually thought he was crazy and attempted to get him and take him to the family home. They came to a house where he was ministering and ... "Someone told him, "Your mother and your brothers are standing outside, asking to speak with you." But he said in reply to the one who told him (for he intuited his family's true intentions), "Who is my mother? Who are my brothers?" And stretching out his hand toward his disciples, he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my heavenly Father is my brother, and sister, and mother." Matthew 12:47-50. His mother, and perhaps the rest of the family, did finally come to recognize his enlightened understanding before his death and ascension. Thanks for having both the wisdom to honor your "family" member where she was at, and the compassion to guide her to her next level in her right timing. This is surely one of the most loving ways we can be with with one another on this journey.
Hi, Carol~
Glad you stopped by!
I had forgotten the incident in Matthew 12:47-50. Fortunately, my family may not be able to "see" me or "hear" me, but they aren't ready to send the men in the white coats to haul me in! At least not that I know of!
It is an interesting phenomenon--the one in which you need to be, as my hubby says, "the pro from Dover" before people think you have something of value to offer! I will say that my sisters read my blog--probably mostly just to keep up with what I'm doing (to know where to send the white-coated men???!)--but they both talk about Easy World and that seems like a minor miracle to me!
Love, Joy, Ease,
Julia